WEEK 5 - Discussion Forum

PROCESSING QUESTIONS:

1. How does communication breakdown affect our relationships with other people?

Communication breakdown is one of the main cause of conflicts in our relationships with other people. The very existence of it make it hard for us to communicate effectively. It causes distractions that makes it hard for us to understand each other. Past experiences can also trigger different comprehension on someones's opinion on a certain manner. This may affect your way of thinking because of the bad memories and past emotions taking over. As soon as emotions take over, it is hard for our brain to think straight. Communicating effectively and being understanding and open-minded are some ways to avoid the vast effect of communication breakdown.

 

2. What was the type of communication that the girl mainly used (especially in the first part of the video) to express her feelings, and if Vincent paid attention to it, might have prevented the things that happened to them?

The girl, Patrice tried to communicate through non-verbal communication. At the very beginning of the video, you can already notice her coldness and her body language and gestures already tells us that she is not happy anymore. She tries to be calm and composed to hold back her thoughts. She even tries to smile even though her body gestures and facial expressions tells us otherwise. If Vincent was paying attention to these small gestures, he could've found out what was wrong. He could've tried to improve and find a solution to the problem.

 

3. What was the main issue between the 2 of them? Could it be resolved? Explain.

The main issue between Vincent and Patrice was lack pf communication. Both of them try to avoid in talking about what is really going on. Patrice only gave him signals instead of actual words. Communication is the key in relationships. Vince on the other hand is alot worse. He always say the phrase "itinadhana" as an excuse  for everything that is happening. He avoids reality by using this phrase. He wasn't even paying attention to her lover's facial expressions and gestures. For me, it would still end but they would part in good terms if he paid attention. The situation was going on for 3 years yet they didn't bring it up to each other. The relationship was also toxic to begin with. Patrice was pressured to give her yes by the public. She even lost the chance to work abroad. Too many things were sacrificed for the sake of a relationship that isn't worth it enough to fight for. If they talked about in early on, they would still breakup but they would go on their separate ways in good terms.

 

4. What lesson/s can we learn from Vincent and the girl? Explain.

You should pay attention to the slightest of things. Don't be selfish and only think about yourself and your personal happiness. Look at your partner and check if anything is wrong. Always ask if she still feels good or if she is still happy. Pay attention to her eyes, body movement, tone of her voice. These small things may become bigger later on that will cause a huge fuss. We can also learn that communication is the key. Not everyone will be as keen as an eagle. If he isn't getting the signals, tell him/her directly. If you keep on delaying the current problem or what you are feeling at the moment, it will affect you big time in the future. These two are some thing that we can learn from the video.